Published September 12th, 2025

Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to shrink in the name of humility. To dim our light so others could shine. To question our beauty, our brilliance, our enough-ness—just to avoid being called too much.

But let’s be clear: knowing your worth is not conceit. It is clarity.

It is the quiet confidence of a woman who has wrestled with doubt, battled insecurity, and still stands in the mirror and says, “God didn’t make a mistake when He made me.”

Humility Doesn’t Mean Erasing Yourself

You can be humble and still walk with your head high. You can be kind and still advocate for your needs. You can be grounded in faith and still honor your gifts. Conceit says, “I’m better than you.” Self-worth says, “I belong here too.”

You Are Not Boasting—You Are Becoming

For Black women especially, confidence is often misread. But we weren’t created to tiptoe through life. You are allowed to take up space. To love yourself fiercely. To speak your name with reverence.

Your worth is not up for debate.

Rooted in God, Affirmed by You

When your identity is rooted in God, self-worth becomes sacred. You see yourself as He sees you—fearfully and wonderfully made. And you walk like it. Talk like it. Live like it. Not to impress, but to be aligned with the truth. So, the next time someone mistakes your confidence for conceit, remember: your self-worth doesn’t need permission to exist. It just needs your permission to be seen.